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My take-away from the book:
Crap will happen to anyone and everyone, at some point. No one is immune. The difference is how we choose to carry on.
Taking risks doesn't always mean we will come up tops. But it also doesn't mean we will always fail.
Exercise compassion. Life is not just about 'me'.
Not entirely the way the author described, but I think not too far from it.
The author shared selective episodes from her life, explaining how she realised that one should love and take risks in life.
Right off the start, I sensed this was a woman who did not conform to conventional thinking, even as a teenager. Her mother had forbidden her to go on dates, and that the young Catherine should only focus on her studies. But she dated the boy anyway, even initiating the courtship rather than wait for him to act. The consequence was that her studies were affected, and so did the boy's.
Before you wonder what sort of message the author is imposing on young impressionable minds, the truth is that many of our friends (perhaps you and I) went through the same, in different degrees. There may be more 'teen rebels' among us than we care to acknowledge.
The key difference, I thought, was that a person like Catherine Khoo consistently applied her optimistic outlook towards life.
She wrote in another of her blog:
... I’ve lived this maxim since I was a teenager … and strange enough, it applies so much more as I grow older. Sure, sometimes I jump in without thinking of the consequences, and I fail, but how many times have I brushed off the blood and dust and moved on? Think of it this way, at least I figured out another way not to do it! Truth be told, though...I love this journey
Can we truly have a happy life just by living our dreams?
Cynics may say that there are those who have tried to do just that, and they end up being decrepit and miserable.
Perhaps in anticipation of that, the author peppers her anecdotes about seeing life optimistically.
Part of her credibility arose from her managing and growing her own business. I think it takes a feisty no-nonsense approach to do that, in addition to being a mother, a wife, and a daughter-in-law. If that's not enough, try starting a writing scheme for teens.
I did not think the author suggests that one should one up-end our lives and gallivant halfway around the world. You get a sense that risk-taking has to be tempered with an underlying sense of responsibility first.
Still, I would not have done some of the things she did, no matter what you tell me. For example, her episode with the illegal taxi ride in a foreign country, where she almost became a victim of a robbery. If I learnt my wife/ mother/ sister did just that (accept rides from strangers), I would be very, very angry. It seemed reckless.
For the most part, I empathised with her stories. Like how she walked out on her husband one time, feeling that she was being unfairly put down by her spouse. As a husband myself, it made me reflect on my words and deeds towards my wife.
One thing I felt the book fell short was that flow of the chapters can appear to be disjointed at times -- though this could be said to be the online-diary writing style. Also, I was left with the impression that there could have been a lot more interesting stuff to be told, but weren't.
I would have wanted to read more was her trials and tribulations in starting and sustaining the Young Authors Club, for one. What went through her mind when she was asked to set up the club? Did she see a business opportunity first, or the social cause?
So, here are a few things that I would be interested in reading, perhaps in her next book:
- Stories, as told by other woman, whom she met along the way.
- Interesting stories of the children and teens whom she have met, through the club she set up.
- The challenges in running a business, never mind being a businesswoman.
- What was it really like when she "shattered the traditional Japanese male enclave when she became the only woman editor-in-chief of two Japan-based magazines published in Singapore, a position she held for seven years" (see this).
Overall, this would make a good book discussion for teens. Or among teens and parents (I guess the teens would have to be forced to attend such a session, lol).
In a practical and pragmatic society like Singapore, some parents will not agree with the premise behind her book's title. The call to "love and live dangerously" was something that goes against conventional thinking when I was growing up, and in a way it's still very much the covert values most of us go by.
This was Catherine Khoo's fourth book. It is currently available at major bookstores here, like MPH, Kinokuniya, and Times Bookshop.
Her books are also available at the NLB libraries.
Catherine also blogs at www.catherinekhoo.sg/the-meaning-of-education.